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BEHAVIOR INFLUENCED BY DIRT
DECEPTIVE IR-RATIONAL THOUGHTS
When I am disobedient, to get my needs met for affection I ...
Act on the emotions of the moment
Adopt any type of behavior to have my needs met
Adopt the behavior and morality of the crowd
Compulsively seek love, affection and approval from anyone
Control people to meet my standards and terms
Express love and affection, then abandon people
Engage in possible sexual sin because of loneliness
Often react jealously to get people to spend time with me
Perform for significant others in my life
Fantasize sexually and romantically
Use alcohol and drugs to lessen the pain
When I do disobedient, I don’t get my needs met for affection
since I ...Appear cold and withdrawn
Appear not to want love
Do not ever allow others to meet my standards
Do not participate emotionally
Bend, mold, and browbeat people to get my needs met
Express love on a very reserved basis
Feel others should understand my need for love
Indirectly communicate my needs and confuse others
Limit my response because of the fear of rejection
Reject the expressions of love shown by others
When I’m disobedient and people don’t meet my needs for affection I ..
Become passive-aggressive by forgetting things
Become angry for lack of recognition
Become harsh (cruel and brutal)
Become hateful (malicious)
Become hostile (vent my anger)
Become unaffectionate
Become unapproachable
Become unfriendly (cynical)
Become unwilling to forgive
Get irritated easily
Have a quick temper (short fuse)
Harbor bitterness (unwilling to forgive)
Hold a grudge (be resentful)
Keep a scorecard of wrongs done to or by me
Procrastinate and am usually late
Punish myself or others
Retreat to the silent treatment
Return hurt for hurt
Try to get even (seek revenge)
Undertake any behavior necessary to meet emotional needs
Use people to get love and affection
Want my mate to initiate and invest all the energy
Want others to fail or get hurt
Will sacrifice only to get my need met
When I am disobedient, I don’t have my needs met I react and ...
Become sarcastic, refusing to communicate
Become slanderous (misrepresent the actual situation)
Engage my ‘dry’ sense of humor to irritate others
Fight unfairly (take cheap shots, backbite, slander)
Gossip (talking behind other's backs, spread rumors)
Hold off others with ‘dry’ sense of humor
Handle unaffectionate hostile people by attacking them
Hold off others with ‘smart alec’ remarks
Make ‘critical’ and ‘sarcastic’ remarks in order to resist sex with my mate
Use humor to hide deep, tender feelings
Use humor to protect myself from rejection
Use wisecracks and jokes to irritate unaffectionate people
Engage in communication sabotage
When I am disobedient and my needs are not met I escape and ...
Become overly introspective (spiral down)
Become self-absorbed (self-consumed)
Believe I'm OK only when I feel OK
Believe the truth is only what I feel
Daydream, fantasize
Deny anything is bad or wrong
Deny feelings or have difficulty expressing them
Deny my opinions and fail to express them openly and honestly
Deny reality and withdraw into my own world
Expect others to be responsible for my feelings
Feel I am being used and plan some sort of revenge
Ignore problems and hope they will go away
Live by my feelings and refuse to look for help
Fantasize sexually and romantically to meet emotional needs
When I am disobedient and do not have my wants met I ...
Become anxious when forced to be away from people
Become anxious (worry and fret over the unknown)
Become bitter if relationships are broken
Become defensive if confronted
Become dependent on other people to make me feel loved
Become distrustful of people
Become fearful (apprehensive)
Become hypersensitive (always on the defense)
Become overly apologetic ( I can never do anything right)
Become paralyzed (go numb and wall out others)
Become paranoid (overly suspicious of everyone)
Becomes possessive (selfish or jealous in most relationships)
When I am disobedient, I act on the emotions of the moment and ...
Allow guilt feelings to control me
Assume I am always the problem
Avoid intimacy
Beat up on myself (hating myself)
Become extremely self-sacrificing
Become inhibited
Become moody (sulk)
Become overly submissive (give up all rights to people)
Become passive - lack initiative and quits too easily
Become self-depreciating (self-condemning/self-critical)
Become stoical (unemotional)
Become too hard on myself and live without grace
Become uncomfortable with success
Bottle up emotions
Center on the negative points of the relationship
Cling (become a leach) to those who finally accept me
Consider emotions foolish
Do not communicate on any level
Do not initiate physical contact
Do not participate emotionally
Engage in self pity
Express love by doing things to get my way
Fake it (hiding what I really think and feel)
Feel others should read my mind
Feel sorry for myself
Focus on suffering or trials to get attention and sympathy
When I am disobedient, I act on the emotions of the moment and ...
Act impulsively - leap before I think
Assume ‘if it feels good, I can do it’
Become anxious when isolated from people
Become compulsive (lacking self-control)
Become impulsive (hasty)
Become irresponsible
Become perfectionistic and compulsive
Become restless and bored easily
Become self-indulgent (self-gratifying)
Become undisciplined in regards to completing a task
Buy things to feel better
Get depressed by stuffing my anger and frustration
Have difficulty forgiving myself
Have difficulty receiving complements
Have difficulty receiving forgiveness
Have difficulty receiving love
Have trouble dealing with feelings
Hesitate because I could not stand being at fault
Lack follow through
Ask why others show me love and affection
Lose my focus easily
Lose self-control easily
Motivate others through emotions
Need to socialize endlessly
Perform to get attention and impress others
Play the role of victim/martyr
Push my self beyond endurance
Read in rejection when it isn't there
Stay uninvolved to protect myself
When I am disobedient, I avoid responsibility becoming self-indulgent because I ...
Can not control mood swings
Can not discipline the family
Cannot handle criticism
Cannot be confronted with failures and mistakes
Fear being punished for not doing the right thing
Fear looking incompetent
Fear losing control of my own life
Fear making mistakes, looking foolish, and being found out
When I am disobedient, in order to avoid personal responsibility I ...
Abandon tasks or blame others for my actions
Become extremely weak willed
Become indirect and stubborn
Become indirect and appear to want to be controlled
Become self-protective and never competent
Blame someone else if ‘things go wrong ‘
Depend on others to make my decisions
Depend on others to share responsibilities and decisions
Depend upon others and use them as the fall guy
Do not communicate my preference
Expect others to know how I feel or read my mind
Motivate others by guilt to take responsibility
Manipulate others through use of guilt
Procrastinate endlessly
Quit and exaggerate the demands (duties and tasks)
Swing abruptly from self-sacrifice to self-indulgent modes
Swing from total independence to total dependence
When I am disobedient, in order to stay in control I will ...
Be arrogant (cocky)
Be conceited (smug)
Be blunt
Be boastful(proud)
Be demanding (pushy)
Be dictatorial (bossy)
Be dominant
Be egocentric (acting pompous)
Be head strong
Be highly critical of others
Be hostile
Be legalistic
Be manipulative
Be overbearing (controlling)
Be paranoid (overly suspicious)
Be preachy (lecturing others)
Be proud (haughty)
Be self-assured (self-confident)
Be self-disciplined (self-reliant)
Be self-righteous, selfish
Be stern (solemn/formal)
Be stubborn, obstinate, unreasonable, and unyielding
Be stubbornly independent and non-involved
When I am disobedient, in order to stay in control I become perfectionistic and ...
I am never satisfied
I am very difficult to counsel
I become independent and difficult to motivate
I check out everything you tell me
I do not submit to authorities
I know no one else can do the job like I can
I legally keep the agenda
I live ‘by the book’
I live by rules (should', must's, ought's)
I must always be right
I must always be the best
I must always win
I must avoid failure at all cost
I never feel satisfied
I overcompensate so as not to fail
I pretend to know it all
I will be extremely disciplined
When I am disobedient, in order to maintain control I will ...
Be argumentative, inflexible, rigid, or close-minded
Be capable of cold, calculating, neurotic behavior
Become bitter, resentful, anxious and vengeful
Cause dissension (strife)
Demand my rights
Get angry and cruel
Intimidate and irritate others
Manipulate (use coercion)
Not delegate responsibility
Use a ‘biting’ sense of humor
Use blackmail to control (make threats)
Use guilt to regain or maintain control
Use people against one another
Use policies as law
Use profanity (swearing)
Use ungodly means and poor behavior
When I am disobedient in order to establish and maintain power I ...
Blame others for my own failure
Cooperate in order gain more power
Dominate and control all people and situations
Get angry and physically seek revenge
Show favoritism
Take extremely high risks
Use any possible form of abuse to gain control
Use good or bad behaviors to regain control
When I am disobedient in order to take or maintain authority I ...
Become legalistic on most topics
Depend on myself instead of God
Depend on others instead of God
Distrust everyone
Do not delegate responsibilities
Do not share decision-making
Give unsolicited advice or badger to get my way
Make decisions for others and not listen to advice
Stubbornly refuse to move or change
Take over others’ responsibility
Undertake any behavior to squash the opposition
When I am disobedient in order get my need for attention and affection I will ...
Be a busybody (become too involved in other's affairs)
Be a caretaker (rescuer)
Be a doormat (let others take advantage of me)
Be a people pleaser
Be controlled by emotions - anger, doubts, fear, etc.
Be controlled by others emotions
Be indecisive (not making decisions)
Be irresponsible (become unreliable)
Be lax on discipline
Be lazy, apathetic, lethargic
Be overly analytical
Be overly compliant
Be overprotective/ rescuing others
Be passive (play helpless)
Be too changeable
Be too compromising
Be too insensitive to criticism
Be too submissive
Have difficulty asking for help
Have difficulty saying ‘no’
Have difficulty setting boundaries/standing up for myself
Try to be all things to all people
Try to do the ‘proper/correct’ thing
Try to keep everyone happy
Try to keep peace at all cost
Try to prevent others’ failure
When I am disobedient, in order to escape pain, I may become obsessed with...
Alcohol Drugs Caffeine Sugar Junk Food Carousing Sex Talking Television Sleep Athletics Religion Hobbies/Games Reading Computers Fantasy Movies Pornography Religious Activity Service Work Accomplishments Recognition Status The Past Past Hurts Past Failures Order Rules Regulations What Others Think Of Me My Personal Performance
When I am disobedient, in order to maintain control I...
Defend myself with a ‘biting’ sense of humor
Hurt others with my ‘wiry’ sense of humor
Manifest my anger physically to seek revenge
React by being mean, intolerable and cruel
Tend to be verbally cruel
Tend to be very stubborn
Use anger as a defensive mask
Use cruel behavior to get my way
Use my twisted sense of humor
Uses humor and sarcastic remarks when opposed
Ventilate my anger with a cruel sense of humor
When I am disobedient, I become self-righteous or self-justified and ...
Assume I am never the problem
Appear cold and indifferent
Appear insensitive, uncaring, unconcerned, or apathetic
Become critical of others (blaming others)
Become extremely serious in every aspect of life
Become judgmental (opinionated)
Become unapproachable
Show critical attitude of self and others
Display a frequent and uncontrollable temper
Have difficulty admitting I was wrong
When I am disobedient, I get angry and get even by ...
Always reversing punishment
Avoiding social events
Excusing my abuse of people
Lashing out with my ‘dry’ sense of humor
Releasing my hot-temper and forgetting why
Stubbornly refusing to change
Using ‘put down’ remarks to belittle
Using sarcasm when hurt (emotionally)
Using verbal or physical abuse
When I am disobedient, I deny or avoid reality and ...
Become pretentious (phony, unreal)
Become restless (high strung)
Become gushy (too sentimental)
“Con” people to get what I want
Control the conversation
Cover up and hide mistakes
Deceive, lie or mislead others
Exaggerate (overstate matters)
Fake it (hiding what I really think and feel)
Find fault with others, myself, and everything around me
Ignore problems and hope they will go away
Make excuses (rationalize)
Play games to hide real intent
Put on a show
Put up a front (can't be real)
Run and hide (escape)
I live through the emotions of the moment and..
Become hypersensitive (touchy)
Become indecisive
Become pessimistic
Become skeptical (suspicious)
Become tense (nervous/agitated)
Become touchy (irritable)
Complain a lot (become negative)
Get angry if not recognized for services
Get depressed easily
Get extremely serious in every aspect of life
Get trapped by gloom & doom thinking
Have difficulty relaxing
Lack confidence and optimism
Knit-pick things to death
I get angry when someone tries to control me and ...
Become anxious and fearful
Become critical of others
Become defensive
Become prejudiced (intolerant)
Become spiritually abusive
Become stubborn and will not change
Become very cruel and abusive (usually verbally)
Become very irresponsible and unsociable
Distrust others, myself, God, church, and/or government
Expect perfection of self and others
Internalize my anger and seek vengeance
Lash out at others with a dry sense of humor
Lash our with an uncontrollable temper
Screen out individuals for profit and power
Tend to get hostile and seek vengeance
Use my cruel temper
Use people as objects or commodities
Use people to accomplish tasks
Usually dominate others to reach goals
When I am disobedient, I withdraw emotionally and ...
Avoid others (become a loner)
Become emotionally insulated
Become stoical (unemotional)
Become unenthusiastic
Become inexpressive
Become uninterested in life
Become very irresponsible and unsociable
Distance myself from others
Do not communicate
Go into a shell
Isolate myself from other people
Keep people at a distance
Set things up to bring about rejections
Take life too easy - the path of least resistance
When I am disobedient, I tend to have indirect behavior and I ...
Am easily manipulated and controlled
Am undisciplined in regards to completing a task
Appear to be apathetic and expressionless
Appear to be shy and withdrawn
Become complacent or nonchalant
Become extremely shy and withdraw socially
When I am disobedient, I tend to have indirect behavior and I ...
Become neurotic
Become overly introverted and isolate myself
Communicate poorly
Do not initiate but wait upon you to set the stage
Expect you to read my mind
Act indecisively - ‘I want it, I don't want it’
Rarely feel accepted or wanted
Say things like, ‘It doesn't matter ... It's OK
Take the path of least resistance
Take things too personally
Tend to be no more than an observer in life
Tend to be very confusing to others
Want peace at all costs